by Kevin Stacey
© 2002 TrainRight, Inc.
"Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, it is the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference." -Virginia Satir
Virginia Satir reminds us that there are always two things in life: the way you think it ought to be, and the way that it is. Frustration is what happens when there is an incongruence between our expectations and reality.
The biggest thing we do to perpetuate our own frustration is fight the current reality and insist that things should be different from the way they are right now. You’ll notice you’re doing this when you find yourself saying the words, "I can’t believe," as in, "I can’t believe this, I can’t believe this place, I can’t believe him, I can’t believe her. This is just unbelievable!" This mindset keeps regurgitating the same junk over and over again in your head and keeps you stuck in the problem rather than focused on the solution.
What can you do?
Frustration is an epidemic. As a society, we seem to be easily bothered. However, we don’t know when our last day on this journey we call life is going to be. Think about it. What percentage of people do you think, on the morning of their last day of their life, know it’s going to be their last day? So, is it really worth it? Perhaps the best antidote for frustration is one of my favorite sayings, "I finally got a grip when I learned to let go."
About the Author
Kevin Stacey helps companies and professionals achieve maximum productivity and effectiveness through stress management and time management training. He is available to speak on these topics. For more information visit http://www.TrainRightInc.com or call 1-800-603-7168.
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